Prevalence of Addiction

Addiction issues affect a great number of couples who are experiencing marital problems.  Sometimes it is obvious that the alcohol/drug problem is affecting the relationship.  At other times, neither partner is aware of the role it is playing in the relationship demise until a crisis ensues.  A common reason couples will seek out treatment is that the partner has given an ultimatum that the drug or alcohol abuse must stop or they will leave. 

If you or your partner is experiencing a drug or alcohol problem, it is best to get professional help as soon as possible.  The sooner you both begin talking honestly about your feelings, the better.

There is Hope

Couples are often quite overwhelmed when they finally get to the point where they want counseling. But no matter where they start from, it is important for couples to hear that there is hope!  It is possible for couples to get through these issues.   I work with couples in these situations to create honest communication, accountability, and rebuild trust and intimacy in a step by step process.  I’ve seen others down the path many times before, so I know the way.  I know the bumps on the road, the obstacles along the way and the short cuts.

Importance of Background of Therapist

It is critical that you work with a skilled professional with particular training and experience with drug and alcohol issues.  There are many reasons for this.  One of the main reasons is that it is important for the clinician to do a thorough assessment of the drug and alcohol problem.  Without enough experience, a clinician may not see all of the signs of addiction or they may not be able to penetrate the problem.  This could lead to insufficient treatment and further problems. 

An inexperienced therapist can also fail to provide the right kind of support for the addicted spouse or enough support.  The once a week therapy session is not enough for people at this stage.  Also, traditional psychotherapy can overwhelm an individual in early recovery.  I am knowledgeable in these important aspects of the healing process.  I assess each individual in terms of their specific needs and very carefully monitor their response to treatment.

Spouses must also get the support they need, so I make referrals as appropriate.   I encourage involving the spouse early.  Addiction effects the whole family and education and support are critical components to care.

I am a 12 Step supportive therapist.  I have many years of experience working with individuals in the 12 Steps programs.  Please feel free to call me with any questions you may have about 12 Step programs or therapy compatible with 12 Step work.