- Are you struggling to communicate with your partner?
- Are there frequent fights or withdrawal?
- Are you feeling unappreciated, hurt or alone?
- Do you long for connection and intimacy with your partner again?
Clinical Approaches in Couples Therapy
Working with couples is known, in the profession, to be hard work. One way a good couple’s therapist deals with this is by getting ample training, supervision and continuing with their training. That has been my approach over the past two and a half decades and my orientation with couples is based on all of the following approaches:
- Solution-Oriented Couples Therapy (Weiner-Davis)
- Developmental Approach to Couples Therapy, Advanced Practitioner for the past 12 years (Bader & Pearson)
- Emotionally Focused therapy, Advanced Practitioner (Johnson)
- Gottman approach, Level Three Practitioner (Gottman) – currently on track to become Certified in the Gottman model
- Family Systems
- Imago therapy (Hendrix)
- Growth Model (Luthman)
It is very important that I learn a lot about my clients in the first few sessions and to do a complete assessment. That information helps me decide which approaches might work best for you. Then, throughout, we keep monitoring what’s working and what’s not. In this way you can achieve the results you are striving for.
Therapist’s Stance on Marriage
I am neither pro-marriage nor pro-divorce and I do not believe that it is my role to tell others what relationship they should be in or get out of. I do believe, however, that it is important to learn from our life experiences. The high divorce rate, and the high second and third divorce rate indicate that learning from our experience is the quite difficult. Getting professional help just makes sense and research supports that. I encourage people to think carefully before making major decisions about their relationships. I can help with that process.
